The Key to Becoming a More Resilient Version of Yourself
The COVID-19 pandemic has affected our lives at a social, economic, and personal level. At this time of adversity and uncertainty, we must learn to cope successfully with financial, mental, social, and professional challenges. Building resilience is the key to overcoming unprecedented challenges. According to the American Psychological Association, “resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress. As much as resilience involves bouncing back from these difficult experiences, it can also involve profound personal growth.”
Here is a famous fable about resilience…
Once a farmer had a donkey. One day the donkey fell into a hole. The farmer tried his best to pull the animal out of the hole, but after all his attempts failed, he thought the donkey was old and decided that there was no point in saving him. So, he called all his friends to help him to shovel sand into the hole to bury the donkey. With each shovel of sand, the donkey would shake it off and take a step up. Shortly, the donkey stepped up over the edge of the hole and happily ran off! The moral of the story is life will always throw dirt on you, and you must learn to shake it off and to move on.
Life will come with its twists and turns. When you practice resilience, you can face these challenges courageously instead of allowing them to impact you negatively. Resilience is not something you can learn, but it builds over time. What it means to be “resilient” differs from person to person based on their values, culture, race, beliefs, and personal experiences.
I have listed are some small steps to help you build resilience and face any adversity, trauma, tragedy, threat, or other life-changing situation with strength.
Tips for building resilience
1. Practice Self-Care:
To build resilience, you must first adopt a healthy lifestyle. Although it may not seem intuitive, the key to resilience is self-care. It includes getting enough sleep, adopting a healthy diet, and exercising. Take care of your mental health by monitoring your stress level and keeping it under control. Practice mindfulness to deal with any negative emotions. Relaxation techniques like meditation, message, prayers can help you to restore energy and internal peace.
2. Have A Optimistic Outlook:
Have faith in the belief that everything happens for a reason. Consider every setback or a failure as a new opportunity to grow. Set realistic goals and always focus on the things that you can control. Have trust in your strengths and abilities. Make a rational plan for long term goals and take the necessary actions to achieve them.
3. Be Kind To Yourself:
Stop comparing yourself with others and accept yourself for who you are. Do not be harsh on yourself and do not blame yourself for every problem. Self-compassion not only helps increase your confidence but it also helps boost your self-esteem and improves your chances of success.
4. Embrace Your Failures And Learn From Them:
How you face your failures determines whether they make you or break you. So, do not get stuck on your failures for a long time. Instead, let it go so you can move forward in life. Use your emotions constructively to carve your own path to success. To know about how to use failures to drive success, check out this post.
5. Stay Connected:
A strong and stable support system helps cultivate resilience. Reach out to your family and friends if you need emotional support and seek professional help if your negative emotions are preventing you from performing your daily activities.
Every setback, loss, trauma, or failure leaves its mark, but we don’t need to let it control our lives. I have shortlisted some resilience quotes to help you to cope with difficult circumstances and to rebound from a setback or a challenge.
Build resilience by doing this practice (By Greater Good Science) every time you are struggling with a difficult situation.
Resilience is very different than being numb.
Resilience means you experience, you feel, you fail, you hurt,
You fall. But, you keep going.
– Yasmin Mogahed
I am not what happened to me,
I am what I choose to become
– Carl Gustav Jung
If you always put a limit on everything you do, physical or anything else.
It will spread into your work and into your life.
There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and
you must not stay there, you must go beyond them
– Bruce Lee
Resilience is accepting your new reality,
even if it’s less good than the one you had before.
You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you’ve lost,
or you can accept that and try to put together something that’s good
– Elizabeth Edwards
It’s a funny thing about life,
once you begin to take note of the things you are grateful for,
you begin to lose sight of the things that you lack.”
– Germany Kent
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul
– William Ernest Henley
Grief and resilience live together
– Michelle Obama
Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve
Strong people alone know how to organize their suffering
so as to bear only the most necessary pain
– Emil Dorian
It’s your reaction to adversity, not adversity itself that
determines how your life’s story will develop
– Dieter F. Uchtdorf
Spending time alone in your own company reinforces your self-worth and
is often the number-one way to replenish your resilience reserves
– Sam Owen
Your subconscious mind is paying attention to how you treat yourself
– Sam Owen
Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving,
we get stronger and more resilient.”
– Steve Maraboli
I will not be another flower,
picked for my beauty and left to die.
I will be wild, difficult to find,
and impossible to forget
Erin Van Vuren
People will try and put limitations on you but
the only person who can truly limit you is YOU.”
– Megan Street
Resilience is knowing that
you are the only one that has the power and
the responsibility to pick yourself up
– Mary Holloway
You are not meant for crawling, so don’t.
You have wings. Learn to use them and fly
The most powerful relationship you will ever
have is the relationship with yourself
– Steve Maraboli